Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Getting the Big Picture

I love planning. Setting goals. Checking off lists. It is exciting to me.

When I became a mom it was overwhelming, frightening and I was definitely in the moment.  I always want to be in the moments with my boys but I also love to see the big picture.

I started this year with setting goals for them. I wanted Ben to learn his alphabet and numbers more. (He is!) I wanted to work with Ian in talking and pronouncing words. (He is doing so much better! We can understand him some).

This might seem to business like to you but hold on a second:)


You are raising the next generation of men and women. Adults. Influencers of the world. They will influence someone. They will make a mark in the world even if it is small in their eyes. When you want to lose weight, it is important to you. You set a goal, reach it, accomplish it.

Why not set goals as parents? As a mom? Goals to reach and accomplish.

Set goals for each child per month/year. Make it simple. Get a notebook and write down each accomplishment. Since my oldest is almost 4 this is a great age to determine if you want to teach them the alphabet, teach them to swim, teach them your address, etc.

Stop competing. Don't look at other kids who are potty trained at 1.5. Or who can ride a bike at 3. Set goals that are reachable for you and your child. You know him/her more than anyone else.

Find a group. Find a mom's group, MOP's or someone you can call. Find that circle of encouragement, honesty and non-judgmental.

Breathe. Those days you want to do 10 million things? Breathe. Don't save the worst for your husband and kids and give the best to your friends. Give your kids and husbands your best. See humor in the small things. Count to 10.

What kind of parenting goal would you set?




12 comments:

  1. I am definitely going to think about this. I set goals in our homeschooling - but I have not been as intentional about setting goals in daily life kind of things.

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  2. Love it. Wise as always, Elisha. I do set goals for my children on a regular basis. My parenting goal, however, is simply patience and finding time to rest & sleep adequately so that I can be the mommy God wants me to be. Small goals, but huge at the same time.

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    1. Patience! Yes, that is one of mine too

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  3. Mine are young men now, 21 and 23 years, but I used to love teaching them as they were able from a young age. I taught both of them to read, count and some basic maths like adding and subtracting before they went to school. Today I am enjoying a good return.
    Blessings
    Mia

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  4. I love this idea and I wonder why I haven't heard more of it from other mums. It seems so logical :)

    Sarah @ A Cat-Like Curiosity

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  5. The more I get to know you the more I find we have in common. I too love planning and making goals! Being a mom has been my biggest 'to do' list to date! I want to raise kind, Jesus loving/following members of socity! I think all else comes after that!! I think you make a good point when you say they will influence someone. I think that their influance can be for good or for bad and that we as moms have a big job is shaping who our little people become! XOXO

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    1. :) I love planning a little too much, haha:)

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  6. I'm a list maker, too! :) I've never really written down goals for C, but I always write down goals for myself-to be more patient, to show grace-whatever I feel like I am struggling with. I agree that finding a like-minded group is important! Motherhood is hard-we shouldn't try to do it alone!

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    1. Motherhood is soo hard, but such a joy!

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