I am so happy to have these posts and I hope you are encouraged by them as I have been! Thank you Heather for visiting over here today and sharing a little piece of your heart with us.
Tell us a little about yourself and your family.
Where do you blog and what is it about?
I blog at Heather Boersma primarily about my faith and how my love for God intersects with my everyday life. I'm also a youth and women's speaker and an author so I blog about the topics I speak about as well (identity, freedom and dreaming big).
How do you stay encouraged when you are having a tough season in motherhood?
By drinking coffee and eating chocolate! Ha ha! I'm not even joking. But I also try to surround myself with other real moms - moms who don't gloss things over and pretend everything is perfect, but moms who are honest about their messes and still finding hope in Jesus. Ultimately though, I'm learning to encourage myself more by speaking the truth of God's word over my life, my marriage and my children.
What do you and your hubby do to keep the flames alive during the little years?
This is a tough one because honestly, we're in survival mode. It's hard to keep your marriage thriving when you're over tired, constantly needed and recovering from giving birth! Certain things that used to be fun are now uncomfortable (if you know what I mean) and most days I'm just glad that we're still friends. But date nights help a lot and we've been trying hard to have more of them. Just going out for dinner and talking uninterrupted feels like a huge step in the right direction.
How do you balance work/chores/marriage, etc in your home?
I don't. Simple as that. I think balance is one of those things that everyone talks about and looks for but never really finds. What I do is try to be present in the moment. If that means playing with my kids and leaving the house a mess because I can tell they need my undivided attention, then that's what I do. If it means putting on a show so I can get some cleaning or laundry done, then we watch a show. More than balance I'm looking for grace. More grace for my husband, my kids and myself.
What is a typical day in your home?
Wake up way too early with my son and then bring him into our bed so he can watch a show and we can try to get a bit more sleep. Breakfast, get dressed, play and then late morning we try to go out (play date, errands, moms group, etc.) After lunch we have nap time/quiet time from about 1-3pm and I usually do a combination of cleaning, sleeping and working. The stretch from after naps til supper is the hardest. In the summer we go outside, but now that it's the middle of the Canadian winter we do more playing inside and get really stir crazy. Daddy gets home and takes over playtime for a bit while I make dinner. 6:30 is bath time and by 7pm both kids are in bed. Then I take a huge sigh of relief, make myself some tea and watch t.v. or work. I try to be in bed by 10pm at the latest because I'm still getting up to nurse my daughter in the night.
When have you found is the best time to do devotions and spend time with God?
This is a super tough one for me. I used to do an hour or more of devotions before I got married and had kids. Now I sneak it in during my morning coffee or sometimes during nap time. I haven't found a consistent time to fit this in. But I have found that talking to God through out my day and crying out to Him in my bad moments has helped me grow in my relationship with Him. Perhaps "doing devotions" doesn't have to look the same in this stage of life... I'm not entirely sure.
Who inspires you? (either online or offline)
My Grandma Wiebe, my mom, my best friends Alisha and Amanda. Christine Caine, Ann Voskamp, Jessi Connolly. There are so many more but I can't think of them all right now.
If you could go back and give yourself as a new mom advice, what would it be?
I'm still in the thick of it so really I don't have any advice to give myself yet. Maybe just give yourself more grace!
What is your favorite part in your current season of motherhood and what is the toughest?
Favorite part: watching my babies grow and learn and bring joy into the world. Toughest parts: lack of sleep, lack of showers and lack of self control when it comes to chocolate.
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What are some inexpensive dates with your hubby that you have done and loved?
Dinner or a movie. We're not super creative in the date department. As long as we get to have a good talk I'm pumped!